Best 10 ways to maintain an optimistic perspective in life

It’s a difficult time. We’re in the middle of a worldwide pandemic, with cities that are shutting down slowly. Streets are empty. Some of us are in areas that have already been affected by the Coronavirus. Anyway, nature is blooming. Spring unearths its beautiful greenness, pollution is decreasing visibly, the crowded touristic cities are now clean, showing us their true beauty. This is how you should see the positive part of every negative situation: nature is reborn.

Life is changing. people are changing. But people have a quality: they can adapt to every situation. Be cautious! Take things seriously, but don’t take a break from life. Keep up your good habits. Make new ones. You have to take care properly of your mind, your body, your soul. Give them what they need. Routine is important, do not neglect it. You’re staying at home? Don’t change your sleep schedule. Don’t be lazy. Get out of bed even if you have nothing to do. Take a shower, get dressed, eat regularly. Exercise and don’t let your soul be affected by stress, panic, or anxiety.

Start to write in a journal. Write down the most hidden thoughts you have, spread out all your fears, make a dream list. You will free yourself, you will find your balance, I promise. When reality is changing, our daily routine, our habits are the ones who feel the shock. Now, we all learn to live differently. To keep the distance from people for a while, but not to be distant with each other.

As a human being, it is normal that you are dealing sometimes with difficult periods, temporary setbacks and a lack of trust. It is that moment when you feel like you’re stuck in a circle you can’t get out of. You have 100 questions, but the answers swirl in your head and you can’t understand anything. Yes, it is normal to pass through periods like this one. Without those setbacks, you couldn’t have learned the lessons you needed to know and you couldn’t develop yourself and become the stunning person you are today. We all have these periods.

Allowing negative emotions to influence you and always feeling stressed can be hard to handle, and this is why it’s very important to know how to take a positive outlook in your life. The fact that you have an optimistic state of mind is not just something that changes your day, it influences your life, the decisions you make, and the way you react to what happens around you. When you think positively, you attract positive things, situations, and people.

No one likes feeling disappointed and unfulfilled, and it can be quite common with this busy lifestyle that we have through work, responsibilities and personal life. When you notice a bad mood hitting you, look at these 10 ways to change your perspective immediately and start improving your state of mind. Don’t forget, every change begins with now, not with tomorrow!

1. Find optimism in negative situations

Instinctively, you are likely to quarrel with everyone, to respond impulsively and to transmit to the others your negative thoughts. Goldberg has an interesting point of view here, saying “we recognize that what we look for is what we tend to see.” Therefore, avoid attracting negativity and try to see the good points. Meditate and teach your mind that any situation, be it good or bad, can be resolved calmly if you see the positive side of the situation. The first step to build a positive attitude is to know exactly what is making you think negatively. You’re nervous because you haven’t finished what you had to do or you don’t know how to do it? Have you been lazy? Did you sleep too much? Try to find opportunities in every obstacle, make a change, and everything will come naturally.

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Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.” – Mary Lou Retton

2. Shift your focus

At those periods when you’re down and you can’t focus on anything or anyone, you need to find the time and energy to understand what’s really important to you.

Write down some of your priorities: your relationship with family, your life partner, your career, a new project, earning more money, improving your social life. Put the puzzle’s elements in order and find what’s most important in your life. After you do that, get rid of everything that could distract you. Close the door, shut down notifications, put some limits, cancel meetings.

Stop being multitasking! When you do more things at a time, it is hard to focus completely on what’s important. Furthermore, being multitasking decreases the quality of what you’re doing.

That’s been one of my mantras—focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.” – Steve Jobs

3. Take it easy

The only person you have to compare to is yourself. Be better tomorrow than you were yesterday. When you go too fast, when you try to think too fast, finish a task too fast, things will never go well. Stress can be both constructive and destructive, so when you feel like something is always pushing you and it’s hard to finish on time, the pressure you put on yourself will absolutely not be constructive.

Slow down for a while, relax, and let your mind find it’s calm. Take an hour just for you and stop thinking about your schedule. Put your thoughts in order. It’s easier to resolve your tasks when you have a clear and constructive perspective on what you have to do.

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” – Aristotle

4. Help other people

For sure, sharing is caring. What you give something to others, you tend to get back from the universe and the people in it. The way you treat people and the way you behave is exactly what you’ll receive from people around you. It works just like a mirror.

Listen to someone when they need to share their sadness, pay a ticket to the theatre to a teen that doesn’t afford to, start sharing on a blog page experiences that might inspire people, implement charity activities. Do it, spend your time by making someone’s day happier. When you feel down about yourself, think about the ones who have serious problems in their lives and are suffering.

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Gandhi

5. Avoid negativity

Avoid being around people who constantly discourage and criticize you. Obviously, constructive criticism is necessary, but you need to know how to make the difference between people who want to stop you from evolving and those who want to motivate you. Sometimes In life, you have to learn to let go of the toxic people and thoughts that might affect your evolution, your wellbeing.

Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions.” – Will Smith

6. Don’t let fears hold you back

Fear is a human emotion that signals our bodies the presence (real or imaginary) of danger around us. As such, it is a natural reaction for keeping us safe.

According to a study made by the specialists from the University of Minnesota, fear can interrupt processes in our brains that allow us to regulate emotions, read non-verbal cues and other information presented to us, reflect before acting, and act ethically. This impacts our thinking and decision-making in negative ways, leaving us susceptible to intense emotions and impulsive reactions. All of these effects can leave us unable to act appropriately.

Dream bigger than your fears are. Do more than you think you can do. Don’t limit yourself, because you can do only as much as you think you can.

The beautiful thing about fears is when you run to it, it runs away.” – Robin Sharma

7. Watch your words

Talk kindly to yourself, darling. If all the people around you are negative and try to discourage you, why are you doing the same? You are your best friend and you are the only miracle that could change something. You’re stuck in a negative bulb created by yourself, and only you can replace it with a positive, stunning, empowering one.

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I live? Did I love? Did I laugh? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.” – Henri Nouwen

8. Read good books

Do you want to have positive thinking and get rid of the discomfort and anxiety? Here’s the solution: forget about the phone, forget about social media. Being stuck in your virtual life all day long won’t help you evolve. On the contrary, it will deepen your anxiety. Instead of wasting your time, you’d better go out, enjoy the sun, fulfill yourself with fresh energy and read a good book.

Look for titles that might be useful to your problem, look for the books you wanted to read in the past and you didn’t have the time to do it. Now is the right time! Here are some book ideas that helped me. Hope it will be useful for you too!

Reading gives us someplace to go when we have to stay where we are.” – Mason Cooley

9. Eat, pray, love

As the title of the book written by Elizabeth Gilbert says, it is important to eat healthily, to pray regularly, to love deeply. In her life, Elizabeth, also the character of the book, didn’t wait for a miracle to make her happy, she didn’t wait for joy to knock the door. She pursued it by traveling all over the world, she learned a foreign language just because she wanted to, she lived in different cultures and tried to understand them. Waiting for something to happen won’t get you the joy of life. We must feel the joy despite the wrong things that are going on in our lives.

You were given life; it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.” – E. Gilbert

10. Stop thinking that you “should” do something

Never let for tomorrow something you can do today. Stop dreaming like a child and start doing something that could really be useful for you. When you do useful things, doesn’t matter how insignificant they are, you’ll feel way better than you think! It doesn’t exist tomorrow; on Monday; when I won’t be so tired; when I’ll have more money…it only exists now. Start with baby steps, but start. Every day is a chance to change yourself.

I believe success is achieved by ordinary people with extraordinary determination.” – Zig Ziglar

As a conclusion…

If you want to reach success in your business and in your life, you have to use each blessed day as an opportunity to evolve, to be better, to accomplish your goals. Stop planning in detail all your life and let things happen just as you feel. It might sound like a lot of work, but nothing’s impossible. The best part is that the more you get closer to your goals, the higher you’ll want to reach. As long as you feel the hunger for succeeding in life, you’ll have the power to achieve your dreams. Keep in your mind the self-respect method:

Set goals
Exercise
Love yourself
Focus on fitness

Relax
Eat healthily
Smile
Positive thoughts
Enjoy life
Care for others
Tell yourself you can do this.

Diana is Marketing Specialist at Appointfix, an app helping professionals and small businesses easily schedule appointments and reduce client no-shows using automated text reminders. Feel free to drop her an email at diana.muresan@appointfix.com.